Strong woman 

  
Strong woman

What does strong means, according to the dictionary:

Healthy, powerful

Determined, resolute

Distinct, unmistakable

Extreme

Forceful on the senses

These are all definition of strong according to any standard dictionary. But what does society, culture, traditions and world says about it?

My grandmothers were and my mother, my aunts, my sisters and my nieces are all strong women. I hope my daughter/s will also become strong woman.

I have couple of different views and opinions of a strong woman. I interpret the question as not being about physical strength. In case of strong character, I think a strong woman is basically the same as a strong man maybe a bit more emotionally. But often it is just that strong character in a woman is often negatively perceived by the society, vs a man with the same exact behavior. The society pressure can be cruel and manipulative. Families, by the way are the tentacles of the society that reach closest to us. The society has been inflicting anxieties on women (as if we already don’t have them!) since the times of Adam and Eve: “what if I am not a perfect wife; mother, daughter, friend, home-maker, etc..? while men are typically allowed freedom of single-minded pursuit of whatever they feel will make them happy – e.g., career, money, status (i.e., they can spend 12-14 hours in the office and not be penalized for not spending more time with their children), woman at the same time are frequently held back by society simply by instilling in their heads that they somehow failed if they did the same thing. I am not saying that woman should start acting like men or ignore their families all I am saying is being fair and stop categorizing woman as a weaker gender.

If women were not so strong and forgiving, human race would have died long time ago.

Therefore, my definition of a strong character woman is that she is just as strong as a man, and in addition does not give a flying damn about what society believes her character to be.

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Breaking the Taboo

Depression

What really pisses me off is that depression is a curable illness with the help of loved ones and medicine/therapy/doctors but since it’s a taboo topic nobody talks about it or seeks help. I am talking more about countries like Afghanistan and other Asian countries not that western countries have improved completely either.

You might be thinking what am I talking about, why wouldn’t somebody seek help when they are suffering?! So let me explain. The culture in countries like Afghanistan, Honduras and the Palestine is very different and to some extend goes over my head because I don’t get it. Mental illnesses are often categorized as a failing of the individual or his or her family, so it seems impolite to most people to talk about it.

So the culture in the countries like this is that having a depression means you are ungrateful, lazy and attention seeker. Basically depression is not seen as a “real” illness but a personality defect and because of that people keep their illness as secret. I am not blaming anyone here because we all are victim of victims and they don’t know any better. What we can do is bring a change so that the next generation doesn’t suffer.

I can go on writing on this topic, because I have been in the midst of it and I know how it is. Maybe for some people it might have been different but for me and majority of people it was the same.

Soon I will be writing about women with depression in Asian countries and some steps to help out bring some change.

Have you or your loved ones suffered depression? What do you think about it?

Inspiration

Is there ever been a person in your life that had inspired you to do something or just astonished you with their achievements? Luckily I have come across many people like that and one of them would be Otto Höschle. He is the most self-motivated person I know.

I met him in 2014 and instantly I like him. He is a teacher writer and has had some really awesome life experiences. What I like the most is that I can speak with him in different languages.

Recently he has translated Oscar Wildes book “The Sphinx” in German. German is a really difficult language. I have to say I still struggle with German but Höschle has translated it in such a profound way that I am totally loving it.

I have some favourite poems in the Book that I will share soon with you guys.

So who has inspired you?

If you read the book or have already read it, please let me know what you think about it and share your ideas and comments in the comments below.

 

Helping yourself

Hello Everyone!

If my teenage self sees me now, she is going to laugh and not going to believe for what I have become. I have come a long way from those days and to some extend I am proud of who I have become.

I am going to be honest with you, finding/helping yourself is not easy and it is a never ending journey. What we can do is find the pieces of ourselves while been on the right path and eventually we will complete our pieces and will reach our destination.

We live in world where we are supposed to know what we want in life by the age of 18 and we should have already accomplished somethings in life by then. I am not saying it’s wrong or right, all I am saying is that it didn’t work out for me like that and I have no regrets about it and if I had the chance to change it I wouldn’t.

I read this book couple of years ago, called: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be: The 25 Principles of Success, By Jack Canfield. This book gave me a push to change things in life, when I was lost and didn’t know how to get what I wanted. I have read a lot of books and I will soon share my favourites with you guys. I think everyone should read this book; it gives practical ideas and helps you to achieve your goals.

If you have read this book or you give it a try, please let me know. I would love to know what you guys think about it and please share your ideas in the comments below.